Friday, March 5, 2010
For Mature Audiences Only
Ah, you clicked on my post. See, I may not have clicked because I question my maturity. I'm aging, but I'm not sure how mature I am.
Do you have an "inner brat?" I remember in the 1980's, "inner child" was a popular topic. Then a couple of years ago, I heard Merilu Henner speak of the "inner brat." My inner brat wants all the cookies. My inner brat doesn't want to brush her hair or go to the doctor's or stop blogging long enough to take care of other responsibilities. My inner brat says, "I don't wanna," when I tell her to get up early and do her c25k.
I was reading an article the other day about growing up, not just growing older. It's written for young, single adults, but it could apply to anyone who wants to grow in this area. I'm writing the list the article has. The blue areas are the points that I really need to work on.
Markers of Adulthood
1. Acquiring an Adult Sense of Mission
2. Establishing Personal Goals and Routines - learning to prioritize, find balance, and work hard toward a goal...discipline
"Goals and routines help people prevent depression and temptation and navigate between the opposing quicksands of boredom and excessive stress."
3. Managing Physical Self-Care - cooking for a crowd, deciding if a medical problem is serious, or dress for an interview...we grow in confidence and skill as we step up to the task of learning these things for ourselves.
"Arranging for our own dental and medical care, haircuts, nutritious meals, exercise, and consistent and adequate sleep can be positive ways to truly claim the gift of the body."
4. Increasing Financial Independence - budget and save
5. Creating a home - reflecting your tastes, lifestyle and personality...even if it is a small space
6. Shifting Our Sense of Family - initiating and responding to opportunities to make friends rather than just waiting for others to come to you.
7. Learning Skills of Emotional Connection - initiating friendliness, responding to others' invitations, and enjoying people of different ages...learning to make conversation
8. Building a Community - volunteering, taking someone to dinner, buying Christmas gifts for others, throwing a party for someone, inviting others over, church involvement, voting
9. Supporting the Next Generation
"A sign of maturity among adults is shifing from being taken care of to being the ones who take care of others."
10. Growing in Spiritual Responsibility ** - obedience to God, willingness to sacrifice for His Kingdom, and the importance of organizing our lives to prioritize prayer, scripture study, and being active in church.
11. Building the Kingdom **
"We can grow up in the Lord as we organize our lives according to His laws and and constantly seek His Spirit to guide and comfort us."
**To those who don't believe in God, when I was an atheist and was asked who my higher-power was, I'd say it was Nature. The terms "Nature" and "Love" can usually be substituted easily to still get meaning out of religious passages and give a sense of our obligation to Earth and fellow beings.
For instance, #10 changes to obedience to Nature, willingness to sacrifice for Nature, organizing lives for meditation and reflecting on Love.
And #11 changes to growing up in Love as we organize our lives according to Nature and constantly seek Love (the good, healthy kind) to guide and comfort us.
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So, how do you deal with your inner brat?